How to Make a Relationship Fail


I got married nine months ago.

It was an incredible day.

We had the wedding at a home on Lake Michigan with 50 of our closest friends.

It was a gorgeous 80 degree evening and the ceremony was done on a deck overlooking the lake. To make it even more special, my father married us, which was fantastic as he also did my two older brothers’ ceremonies.

The food was delicious.

The weather was great.

And the fellowship was outstanding.

The dance floor even had zero wet blankets, which is unheard of at any wedding.

My wife and I stayed the night at the house as well and could hear the waves crashing onto the shore from our bed. It was surreal.

It truly was one of the greatest nights of my life.

The view from the house after the ceremony.

I think that the majority of people who have gotten married feel similar about their wedding day. After all, something that takes months or sometimes years to plan should turn out pretty cool.

You invest a substantial amount of time and effort to truly make your wedding day great.

The big day comes, the wedding hopefully goes off without a hitch, and now you’re married. Yes, it does seem like it goes that fast too.

Do you want to know what the one thing you have to do to make certain your marriage fails?

Absolutely nothing.

To be clear, I am NOT a marriage expert. Just as I am NOT an expert at raising children as I discuss here.

However, I do know with complete certainty that if you want something to be great, it will take work. Furthermore, anything that you just let lie and do not spend time working on, will die.

An old car.

A house.

A business.

A relationship.

And even your body.

In the past I have discussed in great detail the unfortunate state of the fitness industry. Primarily it’s focus of attempting to get everyone to believe that results are quick, easy, and not necessarily requiring of hard work.

This is perhaps the most detrimental mindset that a newcomer to fitness can adopt.

You must understand that you will have to GIVE considerably in order to RECEIVE in regards to the progress of your body.

It is a simple yet complicated transaction.

Very similar to a relationship, physical progress with your body takes considerable time, effort, and consistency of doing the right things.

On the flip side, ignoring your eating habits and physical activity, will not simply keep you flat lined — you will decline.

Often times people think they can stay in the same shape by eating however they want and not working out. In reality, no effort on those fronts will result in a downward trend of your body composition and physical capabilities.

You see this when a person’s weight slowly creeps up five pounds or so a year. Then ten years later they are 50 pounds overweight and look back thinking how the heck did that happen?

It wasn’t a blatant attempt to sabotage their body, but rather a slow death via lack of attention.

You only have one body. Under current technology at least.

Constantly going out to eat or having wine every night is going to push you further and further away from where you probably want to be.

Now ask yourself, am I where I want to be?

If you aren’t, take a look at your habits and be honest.

Are you eating out with your coworkers four days a week because you’re too lazy to pack a lunch?

Are you having a few glasses of wine every night convincing yourself that it’s just to “wind down”?

If you have any desire to make physical progress with your body you must be willing to give things up.

Remember, if it was easy, you would see a lot more people in great shape.

And if marriage was easy, the divorce rate wouldn’t be 50% or whatever crazy high number it is.

Yukon and Kiva enjoying a breeze.  Relevance?  Who cares, it’s awesome.

Humanity in general is currently in a TAKE status.

So many people want to get something for nothing.

It is extremely unfortunate and is breeding folks to have a mindset that is nearly incapable of intense work ethic and constant grind.

When you apply this to fitness, you get a recipe for people to be frustrated, give up, and TRULY believe that physical change will never happen for them. They think that the way they are is the way they will always be.

This is one of the saddest things I hear in my line of work.

When a person actually believes that they could never change and that they will always be overweight, weak, out of breath, or whatever it may be.

I can promise you this:

Barring an extremely rare scenario, every single one of you has the ability to evoke MASSIVE physical change with your body.

The only thing stopping you is being on the correct program designed specifically for you. Both your training and your nutrition, NOT one or the other.

I fully understand that not everyone wants to go to that level of change and that is perfectly fine. I have clients who aren’t at that particular point in their lives right now.

However, if your goal is significant change and you are willing to do whatever it takes to get there, NEVER think that you cannot do it. You can, it is simply a matter of if you will or not.

That was eerily close to a Yoda quote.

In May my wife and I will have our one year anniversary. I don’t claim to be the perfect husband, but I do try to put the time into my marriage that it takes to build and strengthen it.

Because doing nothing will inevitably end it.

If you aren’t willing to work your butt off, marriage won’t work. At least it won’t work well.

This also goes for your body. If you aren’t going to invest time, hard work, and consistency into your training and nutrition, your body will not see positive change.

Are you ready to say goodbye to the body you thought you were stuck with forever? Believe me, it CAN change. It will take hard work, but you can do it and I would love to help you.

Let’s start today.

It’s time to leave the old life behind.

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